It’s a hard enough to tell a mom that she has to schedule time for herself, but to tell that to a mom who is working from home or who owns a business? Forget about it! Why do we always forget that we have needs to, and that taking a time out for ourselves should not make us feel guilty or put it on the back burner. As I work with more and more Mompreneurs, I’m finding the same topic come up repeatedly. One of the main things we struggle with is how to put down the phone, close the laptop, and take some time for ourselves. Not time to bond with the kids and not time to give our significant others attention, but time to focus on us.
I always tell these moms the same thing: Schedule it.
I’m completely the same way. Unless I physically note to take time for myself, I tend to be on the go 24/7. I learned very early on after a couple of burn outs and meltdowns that taking care of me was important. I started scheduling pedicures, massages, lunch with other moms, shopping, taking a nap,or even reading a book, into my calendar.
I use Google Calendar for my life. All of my appointments, meetings, to-do lists, and kids schedules are all on Google Calendar. I also make sure that blocks of time are reserved for me to do whatever I want. I will put on my calendar, 1:30pm-2:30pm Finish Reading The Giver, or 10am-1pm Stroll Through the Mall. Unless I actually put it on my schedule, I may just keep working all the way until it’s time to pick up the kids. Do you know how beneficial naps are? I had never taken a nap until one week, I actually put it on my calendar, curious to see if I would do it. Guess what? I did. And it was lovely.
This has helped me be aware of myself and actively put myself first. It’s a great visual reminder to take a break also. Put it on your calendar, set an alarm, and don’t let work take control of your life. Schedule your downtime, and you’ll never miss it!